Menora, World Organization for the Youth, together with the Community of ACISBA and Bereshit School held a virtual lecture for couples. There were 8 speakers, 5 minutes of inspiration each one, which resulted a master and class, very concrete for a successful and stable marriage.

The speech, which took place last Monday August 10th, commemorated the week of Tu BeAb, the week of love.

Ariel Berim, director of Menora Youth, hosted the event. The speakers were: Rabbi Isaac Sacca, Chief Rabbi of ACISBA and President of Menora, Rabbi Gabriel Sacca, director of Menora, Rabbi Ariel Cattach, Rabbi of ACISBA, Rabbi Nisim Smechow, Rabbi of Bereshit School, Mora Laura Setton Sacca, teacher of the Womens’ Study Center of Menora (Machon), Rabbi Uriel Said, Coordinator of the Men’s Study Center (Bet Midrash) and the Menora Rabbinical Training Center, Rabbi Eliézer Kaplan, director of Menora Villa Crespo and Lic. Giselle Maskin, psychologist and consultant of Menora.

Rabbi Gabriel Sacca summarized in the acronym KBC, three essential concepts to make the freshness and enthusiasm of the jupá last forever: knowledge, balance and concentration. Kowledge of the goals we set as a couple, a constant balance to control if we are doing things well , and concentration in our goals as a couple, which means to know where to focus and not getting dizzy by the exterior.

After that, Mora Laura Sacca explained the meaning of what is written in Bereshit: “The man will abandon his father and mother, he will stick to his wife and they will be an only body”
The concept is related to merging the thoughts of each one with their partner, achieving a total union, taking into account that each one has their own mental structure and their lived experiences.

Rabbi Uriel Said highlighted the importance of covering the need of the other, getting out of your own reality and getting into the other’s reality. We have to understand that the need of your partner is the first step to Shalom Báit, the peace at home.

Rabbi Nisim Smechow focused on the importance of emphatizing with your partner, one of the greatest challenges. To understand the nature of your partner and take no issue for granted.

Rabbi Ariel Cattach stressed the fact of putting the other’s need before your own. Learn to give in. Saying things, not keeping or accumulating them, because that affects the couple. Find the ideal moment. Think of the other, lower your head and let the wave pass.

Lic. Giselle Maskin explained that couples find stability in their bond when they focus on the positive rather than the negative; they make an emotionally intelligent couple. She stressed the importance of knowing each other and knowing the other, empathizing with him, being clear, not focusing on criticism and not focusing on what is missing but on what is full and valuable. Make the other feel accompanied and content. This will allow us to deal with any situation, any storm.

Rabbi Eliezer Kaplan explained that the key for us to be able to live relaxed, without tension, to be connected and closer day by day, is to constantly think about the other, what he likes or bothers him.

The closure was in charge of Rabbi Isaac Sacca, who explained that in this week of Tu BeAb we must rethink how we carry the relationship as a couple, since love is one of the most rewarding passions. It is achieved with an attitude of surrender, of wisdom towards the other. You stop what you are doing and dedicate yourself to helping your partner. The personal goal should be the well-being of your couple, which is the source of blessing for the whole society and brings us closer to the Shechina, divine presence.